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EXTRA: NKE NKE ENYI IZUOGU'S MOTHER TO BE BURIED ON DECEMBER 29TH 2023

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BURIAL OF NKE NKE ENYI IZUOGU'S MOTHER HOLD ON FRIDAY DECEMBER 29TH 2023. The President and Founder of Nke Nke Enyi izuogu foundation for the Needy and the Aged High Chief Dr Sir Ikenna Chiedozie Aniche has officially announced final burial programme for his late beautiful mother Dame Ezinne Nneoma Catherine Chinyere Aniche who passed on recently and will be interred on Friday the 29th of December 2023. Nke Nke Enyi Izuogu Gburu Gburu 1 - 12  disclosed this in a statement he personally authored and signed, said that the burial of his late mother has since commenced with a service of songs which took place at RCCG - New creation assembly of all nations South Norwood  in the United Kingdom on the 11th of November 2023 and another which took place at the mother's Federal Housing Estate Owerri residence on the 15th of November 2023.  Watch on YouTube According to the statement, her body will leave  Aladimma Hospital Mortuary owerri with a brief stop at her Federal Housing Estate o

Critical Point 1- Cultural Clash

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Culture Clash

He (name and local government with-held) has basically completed the bridal rites of his wife only for the elders to start murmuring; happily whispering to themselves. In the midst of confusion the in-laws asked to know if the rites where either not complete or over given. In response, the elders told them that the newly wedded bride must have a carnal knowledge of one of the elders whose turn and right it is to have her. Over the years that has been a norm (though secretly) and no one complains, but theses ones are civilised and educated, hence, they both disagreed.

The youths overpowered them and the old man had her way to the lady.

1. Now, the guy has refused to accept to accept her as his wife.
2. The elders have refused to pay back his dowry.
3. No other man will be allowed according to their culture to marry the lady except the original suitor whom the elders claim they've already paved a way for into the lady.
4. The government, culture and religion of this particular state supports this anomaly.

Please advice these young lovers on the comment box.

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  1. This is really an anomaly, in this civilized era... Well I think this issue should be critically addressed some culture are absurd and should not be in existence... I mean dragging the love lives of this young lovers to shambles because of some tradition, its totally wrong. I think the youths should fight to bridge the practice of this culture else they will only dance to the tune of their fathers against their feelings and misery will be less a word to be used for more experience they would encounter

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  2. Sometimes in fact most times, the Elders make best decision for someone so it becomes easier. Its just like a mom who have prepared dishes to serve the whole Family that's how elders does sometimes and reasons are basically in order to balance their differences Yes because typical marriages that warrants the Elders coming in to join the man and woman is to balance their all differences and that's why traditional marriage is good. Their differences could be: maybe the woman is from a Rich family more than the man and vice versa, The Woman is a Yoruba and the man is an Igbo. Now, in such case what the Elders will do to balance their differences mean a lot in the eyes of the people and families of both the man and woman. If Elders can make a marriage successful by balancing differences then that marriage would: be honoured, last-long, create unity(not only between the couples but between both in-laws, both extended families), make both couples comfortable with each other's respective families and otherwise. So for me what I can decipher from the plight of the man is allowing the Elders to play their role in making the marriage successful. If you retrospect the passage comprehensively from the passage, based on the secret norm, only the Girl could be aware with the Elders of whom her Husband ideally is... After the man had settled her dowry he subsequently refused to marry her and the Elders are not giving him back the dowry. For me, this is a cultural model or cultural drama(with two things involved at the end either starting with sadness and ending in Happiness OR a Tragedy)
    @Elekwachi that's my contribution. If I'm to place myself on the shoes of the young lad. I'll ascertain factually if my woman(wife) loves me as I do, and then if it be that we both verily love ourselves and every other thing between us is perfect then we are good to go. I'll only enjoy all the cultural scene and make sure it doesn't deter the successful marriage process. The guy should understand cultural values on marriage(as a drama) and go ahead with his marriage But if he is aware of it already and insisted not to marry again then that means he is not ignorant of what he is doing. In this case, he should be convinced to marry her by all means because what must have gone wrong is not because he is no more in love with his woman but something else.
    Therefore, provided that the love still coexist between the both that prior to this time lead to payment of her dowry which makes her his first love, He should be persuasively convinced to marry her after all he chose her himself at first.
    @Elekwachi that's all i can say for now #Goodday

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